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How does the nine-week program work?
There are nine weekly teaching sessions, followed by a separate celebration evening. The celebration recognizes growth and invites your support person or spouse back; it does not introduce another week of new teaching.
You meet with a consistent group of men to explore that week’s Counterfeit Emotions topic through teaching, conversation, and practical exercises. The group provides a place to learn together, reflect honestly, and encourage one another as each man takes responsibility for his own work.
Who is the program designed for?
The nine-week cohort is for men ages 18 and older who want to move beyond simply avoiding pornography and work toward recovery. You’ll explore the emotions and patterns beneath your behavior, practice new ways to respond, and build connection with other men. Explore the starting points for men →
What’s included in coaching?
Program + Coaching includes the nine-week cohort and three months of weekly one-on-one coaching, with each session lasting up to an hour. All individual coaching takes place by phone or video call. In-person coaching appointments are not offered. Choose to use your coaching before, during, or after the cohort.
How is privacy handled?
Privacy and confidentiality are central to the program. Personal information shared within the cohort is expected to stay within the cohort.
All cohort sessions are recorded so participants can catch up on missed material.
Is the program faith-based?
People of any faith or no faith are welcome. You do not need to believe in God, belong to a religion, or adopt a religious belief to participate.
We value relationships with God and may discuss spiritual connection, without aligning the program with a specific religion. You are welcome to explore the practical tools, emotional awareness, responsibility, and connection in ways that fit your own beliefs and values.
Does this replace therapy?
No. Recovery Not Sobriety offers coaching and education. It provides practical tools, reflection, accountability, and brotherhood; it does not provide diagnosis, psychotherapy, medical treatment, or crisis care. If you’re seeing a therapist, discuss how the program could fit alongside the work you’re doing together.
Can a spouse participate?
A trusted support person is invited to week two, Recovery vs. Sobriety, and your support person or spouse is invited back for the celebration. This can be someone you trust; it does not have to be a spouse. Their role is support, while responsibility for recovery remains with you.
We also encourage men to sit down with their spouse or support person once a week and teach them a little of what they are learning. These conversations can help the support person understand the ideas and how to offer support.
What if I relapse?
You are welcome to begin again. A setback does not erase your worth or everything you’ve learned. The program invites honesty about your choices, curiosity about the emotions around them, and a practical next step. You can start with the free I Just Relapsed page.
Are payment plans available?
Yes. Payment plans are available for both the nine-week program and Program + Coaching, giving you the option to spread out payments. Review your payment schedule and full terms before enrolling.