I keep promising myself this is the last time.
I mean it when I say it. Going back to pornography leaves me disappointed and tired of starting over.
At the heart of our approach
Sobriety is a beginning.
Recovery goes deeper.
Whether you’re trying to stop for the first time, have tried other programs, or are continuing your recovery, you’re welcome here. Wherever you are in the process, even after a setback, our approach goes beyond managing behavior and counting days, helping you work through the emotional patterns so you no longer need to escape.
Explore recovery vs. sobrietyThree myths about recovery
Old beliefs can keep you stuck.Let’s challenge them.
Myth
“Once an addict, always an addict.”
You are not defined by your behavior. You may see pornography as the addiction, but we believe shame is what keeps men trapped in the cycle. In our program, there are no labels. We help you recognize and work through the shame beneath the behavior, moving toward a life in recovery. We believe you can overcome shame and build a life you love being present for.
Myth
“If I stay sober long enough, it’ll all go away.”
Sobriety is an important step, but time alone doesn’t resolve the emotions and patterns behind the behavior. Recovery means doing the deeper work: facing what hurts, making peace with your past, and learning new ways to respond. Our program helps you put that work into practice—so progress means more than another day on the calendar.
Myth
“I just need more willpower.”
Willpower alone doesn’t address the loneliness, shame, stress, or emotional pain that can drive pornography use. Understanding those feelings is a step toward recovery, not a sign of weakness. The Counterfeit Emotions Program helps you work through the needs beneath the behavior and practice healthier ways to respond—so change goes deeper than resisting an urge.
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Inside the program
What the nine weeks look like.
A consistent group, practical emotional tools, and support for putting what you learn into everyday life.
Meet each week.
Join nine weekly group sessions, online or in person in Lehi, Utah, to explore the emotions and patterns behind the behavior.
Put it into practice.
Use daily lessons, your guided workbook, and practical exercises to try new ways of responding between sessions.
Grow with support.
Learn alongside a consistent group of men, with accountability and one individual coaching session by phone or video call.
After the nine weeks, invite your spouse or support person to a celebration of your growth.
Explore the nine-week program
Free live online trainings
Learn with us, live.
Join Curtis for honest conversations, practical tools, and a fresh perspective on recovery. Explore the emotions behind the behavior—and bring your questions.
- 60 minutes
- Live Q&A
- Recordings available
November 12–January 11 · 7–8 p.m. Mountain Time
Session days vary. Choose the dates that work for you.
Mostly for men, with dedicated sessions for parents and spouses.
Does this feel familiar?
You may recognize one of these thoughts. You may recognize several. There’s room to begin wherever you are.
I’m afraid of how people would see me.
I want to be honest, but I worry about being judged or hurting someone I love.
I make progress. Then I feel back at the beginning.
A setback can make it hard to see the effort I’ve already put in.
Sometimes, I just want a break from how I feel.
When I’m stressed, lonely, or overwhelmed, I reach for relief, even when it isn’t what I want for myself.
I feel alone with this.
Even around people who care about me, there’s a part of my life I don’t know how to share.
I want to trust myself again.
I want my choices to reflect what matters to me, and to feel more present in my life and relationships.
You deserve to be heard and treated with respect. Start with understanding what’s happening, and explore one next step.
Understand why you feel stuck →A different way to think about recovery.
The Counterfeit Emotions approach
Understand. Grow.
Practice. Connect.
You want to stop looking at pornography and feel more present in your life. Our coaching and education approach invites you to explore what’s behind your patterns and practice choices that reflect what matters to you.
Discover how shame can keep you caught in repeating cycles—and how to begin breaking free.
Understand
Look beneath the pattern.
Discover how shame can keep you caught in the cycle—and recognize what’s happening beneath the urge. Explore what you may be seeking when you turn to pornography: relief, comfort, escape, or connection. Begin noticing what’s happening before the urge.
Grow
Build a different relationship with yourself.
Learn to separate your worth from your behavior, replacing self-judgment with honesty, responsibility, and compassion. Learn to recognize what you’re feeling and what matters to you. Practice taking responsibility for your choices while treating yourself with honesty and respect.
Practice
Bring it into everyday life.
Practice responding to shame and difficult emotions without turning to pornography for escape. Explore practical ways to respond to stress, loneliness, and difficult moments. Put what you’re learning into action, one choice at a time.
Connect
Make room for real connection.
Break the silence around shame by sharing honestly with people you trust and learning to receive support. Practice asking for support and being more present with people you trust. Explore the relationships, values, and sources of meaning you want to build your life around.
Curious about Counterfeit Emotions?
Explore how these ideas come together in our nine-week program.
Room for everyday joy
More connection.
More ordinary moments.
A shared laugh. An unhurried morning. Time to listen. Make room for the life and relationships that matter to you.
Explore our approach →In their own words
Real experiences. Room for hope.
Men who have taken the Counterfeit Emotions Recovery Program share what mattered to them.
Life saving
“It was life altering and life saving for me in a tough time.”
Understanding emotions
“Learning about and picking apart the emotional need for my behavior was life changing!”
Hope without shame
“This program emphasizes hope rather than shame, unlike other programs I have been a part of.”
Honesty and self-awareness
“He invited me to look at myself differently with greater honesty and awareness.”
Excerpts from participant testimonials. Individual experiences vary.
Read their full comments →Start with resources.
Presence, purpose, connection
Show up for the moments that matter.
Being present. Feeling connected. Making memories in the small, everyday moments.
Find your starting point →
Supporting someone?
When you’re ready for structured support.
9-week program
$2,200
Payment plans available
The cohort program.
Choose the cohort →Program + Coaching
$4,200
Payment plans available
The cohort plus three months of weekly individual coaching by phone or video call.
Choose program + coaching →Let’s talk
Questions before you take the next step?
Have questions about the program or which option fits you? A conversation can help you decide on your next step.