POWERED BY COUNTERFEIT EMOTIONSStart recovery →When pornography affects your relationship, your feelings and needs deserve space too. His choices do not determine your worth. You can seek support for yourself, take time to consider your boundaries, and choose what comes next.
You may feel hurt, angry, confused, lonely, hopeful, or several things at once. You do not have to minimize what has happened or have every answer today.
Your value is not measured by his choices, and his pornography use is not proof that you are somehow lacking. You deserve room to name your experience and ask for support of your own.
The Counterfeit Emotions distinction between kind and nice makes room for both care and honesty. You can care about him while speaking truthfully about your needs and limits. You do not have to say everything is okay when it is not.
A boundary describes your choices; it cannot make him choose recovery. His honesty and follow-through remain his responsibility. Supporting him does not require becoming his monitor, coach, or only source of support.
Our goal is freedom from relying on pornography for relief or escape. Through Counterfeit Emotions, men explore what comes before the behavior and practice responding with greater awareness and responsibility.
That work includes honesty about choices and their impact, consistent action, and support beyond the relationship. Learning about emotions does not excuse pornography use or require you to trust before you are ready. Progress is personal; a program cannot guarantee an outcome.
An invitation to understand each other
When it feels safe, choose a private time with room to talk. Ask whether now works or agree on another time. If you are concerned but unsure, speak about what you have noticed and how you feel, leaving room for an honest answer.
“I care about you and our relationship. I’ve been concerned about pornography, and I want to understand what’s going on. Is now a good time to talk honestly, or can we choose a time?”
You can be curious about his experience and still ask for clarity about your own concerns.
“I found a short article about the feelings that can come before pornography use. Would you be open to looking at it? You can read it yourself, and we can talk afterward if you want.”
Give him room to consider it. You can offer a resource while leaving the decision to participate with him.
Preview a resource you could offer →A caring opening cannot guarantee a calm or honest response. Your feelings and boundaries still matter. If speaking up feels unsafe, seek individual support before beginning the conversation.
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Women’s course · Coming early January 2027
Explore the same core Counterfeit Emotions dyads as the men’s program, approached from a woman’s perspective. Across nine weeks, connect these principles to your own experiences, relationships, boundaries, and choices.
Your growth matters in its own right. This is a space to learn for yourself and discover what these ideas mean in your life.
Coming at the beginning of January 2027. The day and time are still being finalized.
Explore how curiosity can help you move through fear and approach difficult emotions and conversations with openness, care, and respect for your own boundaries.
Both prices are for the same nine-week women’s course. The rate depends on whether your husband or partner has participated in the men’s program.
$1,200 USD
For women whose husbands or partners have not participated in the Counterfeit Emotions Recovery Program, including women joining without a partner.
$400 USD
For women whose husbands or partners have previously been through the Counterfeit Emotions Recovery Program or are currently participating.
Enrollment is open. The schedule is still tentative; review the current details at checkout before enrolling.
Eligible for the $400 spouse rate? Enter the unique $800-off coupon provided to your husband at the $1,200 checkout. If he has not received it, contact us before paying.
If your spouse enrolls later: If you pay the full $1,200 for the women’s program and your spouse enrolls in the Recovery Not Sobriety program later, your spouse will receive $800 off their program enrollment.
Your needs matter here
You can seek support for yourself whether or not he is ready to seek help. That might begin with someone you trust or a licensed professional you choose. Counterfeit Emotions courses and coaching do not replace therapy.
If he joins the men’s program, he is invited to bring a support person to week two and the celebration evening. You can decide whether you want to participate. It does not have to be you.
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Explore eight common myths through a spouse’s perspective, with compassionate conversation prompts, reflection questions, and boundaries that make room for your own growth.
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You can read for your own understanding or choose to share a resource. You are not responsible for convincing him to use it or enroll.
Explore the emotions before pornography use and the difference between sobriety and recovery.
Read “Why Can’t I Stop?” →Review the nine-week journey, brotherhood, and opportunities to include a support person.
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